battle of the sexes

Michael J. Formica describes men as being “very linear, they go from point A to point B,” (Formica 1) whereas women “tend to think more globally and consider the big picture,” (Formica 1). Men like to accomplish a task, meet a women, have sex, and go home for the night, but women like to go for dinner, over-analyze any awkward pauses, weigh the possibility and prospect of marrying this person and maybe after a long enough waiting period, “make love” to them. Men tend to think more linearly whereas women look at the overall picture. Here lies the essential difference between the male and female brain: men are physical creatures and women are contemplative creatures. The bottom line is that “women are more apt to show up physically and sexually when their partner is emotionally present, while men tend more to just show up,” (Formica 1).

No matter how hard a women tries to rebel against this stereotype of being an emotional creature, they are ultimately tethered to an emotional overdrive that overpowers the physical. There may be some people thinking to themselves, “what about the Samantha’s of the world?” But I ask you; does Samantha not end up in a monogamous relationship with Smith? The answer is yes, because behind the façade of promiscuity and try-sexuality, all women want a stable, emotional relationship with someone. It is simply in our nature.

The relationship between males and females can be perfectly explained and understand with one example: cuddling. A woman could lay in bed with her partner for hours, just “cuddling” and basking in the company of another. At the same time, the male in this situation is calculating how many more seconds he has to lay in bed before it is acceptable for him to leave. This, my friends, is the difference between a man and a woman: physical versus emotional connection. At some point in every woman’s life she wants to stop screwing around, no pun intended, and settle down to a nice house in the suburbs, furnished with a husband, two kids, and dog. Whereas a man is perfectly content sleeping with a different women every night for the rest of his life, hence the existence of the bachelor pad. For every women looking for Mr. Right, there is a man looking for Miss. Right Now.

Formica, Michael J. "Gender Differences, Sexuality and Emotional Infidelity."
Weblog post. Psychology Today. 8 Jan. 2009. 23 Feb. 2009
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rules to live by

When you think of a nerd, a jock, a cheerleader, a very distinct image comes to mind. The nerd is smart, dorky looking, usually has glasses and is kind of a loser. The jock walks around with their varsity jackets and the cheerleader is supposed to be pretty, ditzy, and peppy. Stereotypes have become so commonplace in our society that people actually think of them as rules to abide by in order to be a jock, nerd, or cheerleader. But who decides these rules and why does everyone accept them as true? I recently read a poem called "Girl" by Jamaica Kincaid, which talks about the rules a girl must follows to become a proper lady. So, here is my rendition of a poem in this manner. This is what you have to do to become the best little sister...

This is how you become the best lil’ sis’ ever. Be annoying, be adorable, be mischievous, be sly; this is how you get away with every this is how your older sister always takes the blame; never get in trouble always be the favorite; this is how you sneak in her room when she is not home and take her clothes this is how you put them away so she does not notice; what if she notices; she will not because this is how you leave 

her room seemingly untouched. Always want what she has, only want what she has, always get what she has; this is how you can get away with anything, this is how you make everyone laugh and this is how you become the favorite. This is how you pretend not to know any better, this is how you are always innocent. This is how you know all of her secrets, this is how you embarrass her and make her made, this is how you become her best friend; what if I do not want to be her best friend, you want to be her best friend because that is what sisters are for. This is how you make your parents think you are asleep when you are really playing games, this is how you love your older sister no matter what. This is how you put on makeup like your sister, this is how you dress like her, this is how you act like her. This is how you act like the adorable, lovable, devilish little sister she always wanted. This is how you become the closest of friends that only sisters can be.